The language we use to describe our identities and experiences is constantly evolving and becoming more articulate. This list outlines several terms used in queerspawn community.
Bothie
Refers to someone who was born into a heterosexual/cisgender relationship and whose parents later both came out as LGBTQ. Also applies to instances where LGBTQ people come together to create families, such as a lesbian couple and a gay male friend who decide to conceive together or a transgender man and his cisgender male partner who conceive together.
COLAGEr
Identity term for youth and adults with one or more LGBTQ parents/ guardians. Used particularly by youth who have been involved with COLAGE, the only national organization focused on people with LGBTQ parents/guardians.
Culturally Queer
Speaks to the feeling shared by many people with LGBTQ parents that they grew up immersed in queer culture, including traditions, celebrations, media, and language. Queerspawn are often raised in the queer community and learn about society primarily through a queer lens, and experience heterosexual culture and its norms as a secondary cultural influence.
DC (Donor Conceived)
Born through the use of a donor. This includes people conceived using a egg donor and/or sperm donor. Some DC individuals are conceived using medical intervention while others are conceived at home.
DI
Born through the use of a sperm donor and most commonly used by people involved with COLAGE. Some DI individuals are conceived using medical intervention while others are conceived at home. This includes conception
through IVF, ICI, IUI, or IVI.
Dibling
Describes the relationship a donor conceived (DC) individual has with another person born through the use of the same sperm or egg donor.
GOLAGEr
Identity term for individuals with one or more LGBTQ grandparents. Also used primarily among people involved with COLAGE.
PTP and KOT
PTP (People with Trans Parents) and KOT (Kids of Trans) are used to identify people who have one or more parents who are transgender, gender variant, or identify somewhere else along the gender spectrum.
Queerspawn
An identity term used by youth and adults with one or more lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or queer parents/guardians. It is often used to articulate one’s connection to queer community and claim a space in it.
Second Generation (2nd Gen)
Identity for queerspawn who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or queer themselves. Some LGBTQ queerspawn also identity as 3rd gen, 4th gen, etc., which represents the number of consecutive generations of LGBTQ parents and their queer children.
Downloadable Version of Living Language and Allyship Handout
Queerspawn Resource Project 